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Wednesday 22 October 2014

Chilling! How Doctor murdered wife so he could be with mistress(Photos)

 This is the sad story of a man who created the perfect plan to murder his wife of 30 years so he could be with his mistress ..
Martin and Michele MacNeill were a successful couple with eight beautiful children.He was a doctor and she was a striking former beauty queen.But behind closed doors, there were enough secrets and lies to make a blockbuster thriller. It ended in a calculated murder that left the killer free for five long years, Love Sunday reports.
Michele had been married to her husband Martin for almost 30 years.She had been a straight A-student, a cheerleader and a beauty queen when she met Martin through their mutual Mormon faith. The pair eloped when they were both just 19 and started a life together in a gated Mormon community at Pleasant Grove, Utah, not far from Salt Lake City.
According to the Mirror uk ,together, they had eight children. Four were biological.The couple were highly respected. Although Martin worked as a doctor he was also a trained lawyer. At one point he was a bishop in his local congregation of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
The MacNeills looked like the perfect family but Martin had plenty of secrets. One of which was Gypsy Willis, a woman he’d been having an affair with.
Martin was captivated by Gypsy. He wanted to be with her but he couldn’t just walk away from his family – what would people think? So he’d play mind games with his wife, constantly threatening to commit suicide when things didn’t go his way. While Michele desperately tried to hold their marriage together, Martin was plotting the unthinkable.
In March 2007, Martin suggested to Michele that she should have a facelift. At first she was reluctant because she had blood pressure problems, and she wanted to lose some weight. But Martin pushed her until she changed her mind.
Michele thought it would save their marriage, but in the last consultation before the surgery, Martin went along and gave the surgeon a list of painkillers he wanted Michele to take. It included strong medication that wasn’t usually prescribed.

On April 3, 2007, Michele had the surgery and returned home the next day. Their daughter Alexis, who was home at the time, found her mum unresponsive at one point because of the high levels of medication. Her dad admitted he’d perhaps given her too much – so Alexis took charge of the medicine.
After a few days, Alexis went back to study away from home, believing her mum was on the road to recovery. But the next day, April 11, Martin called police to say he’d come back from work and had found Michele face down in the bath.
Paramedics rushed to the scene but it was too late. Michele, 50, was dead. Martin acted the grieving husband, wailing and crying, but everyone sensed it was a fake reaction. An autopsy then determined Michele’s cause of death to be cardiovascular disease and her death was recorded as accidental from natural causes.
Martin’s older children and Michele’s family were convinced it was foul play. Two weeks after her death, Martin brought Gypsy into the house and said he’d hired her as a nanny. It confirmed their worst fears when it turned out they shared a bedroomOnly son Damien, 24, defended his father at first, but in January 2010 he committed suicide.
The family pushed police for three years until 2010, when the cause of death was changed to ‘undetermined.’ It took another two years for police to arrest Martin.
In October 2013, Martin pleaded not guilty to murder and insisted his wife had died accidentally. The trial was partly televised and became a must-see sensation across the US.
The prosecution said that Martin had given his wife a high level of prescription drugs and had left her to drown in the bath – perhaps even holding her down under the water. He’d told the 911 operator he’d performed CPR but he hadn’t.Martin had wanted to start a new life with his mistress but couldn’t just simply walk away because of his standing in the community. Prosecution said it was ‘almost the perfect murder’.
The mistress Gypsy
Inmates testified that Martin had told them that he’d killed his wife, and another former lover said he’d told her he could make a murder look like heart failure. Lover Gypsy also testified against him and admitted having an affair before and after the death of Michele.
The defence team insisted Michele had overdosed on her medication and had fallen into the bath and died. But in November 2013, the jury found Martin guilty of first degree murder.
Just when the world thought that Martin had committed the ultimate crime – it was revealed that he faced further charges.
Just five weeks after the death of his wife, he’d slipped into the bed of his daughter, Alexis, 30, and sexually abused her. When she woke up, he said he’d mistaken her for her mother. In July 2014, Alexis, who waived her right to anonymity, testified against her dad, who claimed that he was ‘asleep’ during the assault. He was found guilty.
His daughter Alexis cries after the sentencing

In September this year, Martin MacNeill, 58, was sentenced while family and friends of the victim held up smiling photos of her. Daughter Rachel begged for a severe sentence.
 "He took the kindest, most caring person I’ve ever known, and he calculatingly took her from us all," she said.

Culled from Mirror UK

50 Amateur Mistakes Guys Make On The First Date

Too many guys go out on a first date and make total amateur mistakes which always ends up with them blowing their chances with their girl. Here’s a simple guide for you to study – avoid these 50 things on your first date and you’ll do just fine.
PS, Number 39 in particular is never a good sign, and I wouldn’t blame any girl for bailing early on your date after that!
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1. Showing up late for the date.
2. Under-dressing  – showing up in sweatpants and dirty white trainers is a complete amateur mistake.
3. Greeting her dad at the door of her house with a moist, sweaty-palmed, limp handshake.
4. Stepping into the house with your dirty, mucky shoes – her mom already hates you!
5. Being too shy or standoffish with her parents when you meet them.
6. Cursing or, God forbid, taking the Lord’s name in vain in front of her parents.
7. Taking her out using the public bus as your means of transportation.
8. Only paying your own bus fare.
9. Or speeding off from her house in your “VROOM, VROOM” car, while her parents watch.
10. Sitting in awkward silence.
11. Sweating profusely through your shirt, with armpit stains emerging from both sides.
12. Reaffirming her view that chivalry is dead, by doing things like not holding the door open for her.
13.  Or not pulling her chair out.
14. Ordering her food FOR her.
15. Checking out other girls while you’re together.
16. Nonchalantly flirting with your waitress or server when you’re out.
17. Prematurely using terms of endearment such as “babe”, “cookie” or “hon.”
18. You’re texting, calling someone or just messing around in general on your phone!
19. Bringing up your ex girlfriend in casual conversation.
20. Comparing your date to your mom in any way, shape or form. Just DON’T do it!
21. Your eyes linger on her breasts for more than the appropriate amount of time.
22. You compliment her body, over her personality or her looks.
23. You make crude or offensive jokes.
24. You choose religion or politics as an ice-breaking conversation.
25. Laughing about how broke you are.
26. Being too touchy-feely – such as placing your hand on hers, or her lap, for an inordinate amount of time.
27. Not making eye contact – this gives off the impression that you’re hiding something or are really uncomfortable.
28. Making too much eye contact – this gives off the vibe that you’re too forward and will most likely creep her out.
29. Telling any story which begins with: “I was so hammered…”
30. Asking her about her ex boyfriends.
31. Being too generous and disingenuous about your compliments.
32. Agreeing with everything she says.
33. Having no views or opinions of your own.
34. Doing all of the listening and none of the talking.
35. Doing all of the talking and none of the listening – find the happy medium.
36. Not being ready for the date – remember the 3 S’s: Shower, Shit, Shave.
37. You have appalling table manners, such as slurping loudly or talking with your mouth full.
38. Being indecisive is a big turn off: make sure you have something planned!
39. Disappearing to the bathroom for a lengthy period of time.
40. Not knowing how to make your move – if you’re too tentative you will miss your opportunity.
41. Talking about how rich you are – is she picturing being with you, or your money? You won’t know if you bring this up on the first date.
42. Correcting her on little details such as grammar or basic geography.
43. Being overly-confident or cocky.
44. Going to the movies – first dates are about talking and getting to know one another and you can’t do that during a movie.
45. Drinking too much and getting drunk in front of her.
46. Not making her feel safe and protected around you.
47. Using sex as a topic of conversation is an immediate red flag.
48. Opening your wallet when you go to pay, and she sees that it’s stacked with condoms of all different shapes, sizes and flavours.
49. Desperately sliding your tongue into the end-of-the-night kiss, and it gets blocked off by her closed lips.
50. Texting her too much afterwards and coming off as desperate and needy.

LAWRENCE ANINI, Nigeria’s Most Notorious Armed Robber Part1

THE FACE OF TERROR: LAWRENCE ANINI, Nigeria’s most notorious armed robber on the hospital bed after he was badly injured following his capture in December, 1986. PICTURE CREDITS: NATIONAL MIRROR.

INTRODUCTION

On the 23rd of August 1986, something bizarre happened in Bendel State, Nigeria. A prince of the Benin royal family, Kingsley Eweka, was bundled to the Asoro firing range. A Bini prince and an aristocrat by birth and virtue of belonging to one of Africa’s oldest and most revered monarchies, Kingsley was however not accorded any honour that fateful day. As a matter of fact, he had just been condemned and sentenced to death by a court of law for armed robbery and he was manacled like a petty criminal that he was. At a time when the law was really blind, the prince was lined up and in a matter of minutes, he was fired and joined his ancestors. But something very interesting happened shortly before he was killed.
Prince Eweka took a good look at his executioners, struggling to turn his neck as his body was firmly tied to the stake. They also looked back at the condemned criminal and cast furtive and somewhat puzzled glances at themselves. Then they asked him if he had anything to say. An embittered Eweka was overtaken with rage and he thundered:
‘My friend and his boys will avenge my death!’
But the executioners, who did not know those Eweka was ranting about, thought it was just the paranoid prattle of a man facing  a sure death. They thought Prince Eweka was just delusional and were not even interested in any friend of his, if indeed he had any. Theirs was to escort him to the border between this world and the next. The executioners let out warm smiles that slipped out of their vengeful cheeks and in a matter of minutes, Kingsley Eweka was history, to explain himself before the gods.  But the prince was not blabbing. The whole of Nigeria would soon hear of his ‘friend and his boys’. And it was indeed a very bloody revenge.
Prince Eweka and other suspects were arraigned before the Armed Robbery and Firearms Tribunal. With his fellow partners in crime, they paid the ultimate price.
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The year 1986. October was the month. The iron-fisted military junta of Ibrahim Badamasi Babangida was rattled by a 26-year-old man who could not even speak a single sentence in English, not to talk of write a line of grammar. The gap-toothed Nigerian military president was furious and he summoned his highest-ranking police chiefs.
Some hundreds of kilometers away from the cosy and secured chambers of IBB’s Armed Forces Revolutionary Council where the high-powered meeting was going on, in the ancient city of Benin, everyone was bathed in fear and it was very palpable Bendel State lived under the dark blanket of sheer terror spread by this young man who spoke only Pidgin English and his local dialect . Everything was tried to capture this elusive figure but nothing worked and he continued to unleash unspeakable horror upon the defenceless citizens.
The people of Benin felt they had had enough. One fateful day, women leaders of various markets all over Benin trooped to the Oba of Benin’s palace and pleaded with him to use his powers to consult with the spirits and stop the dark rains of Anini. At a point, the monarch had to go on radio to appeal to the gangsters to let peace reign in Benin. Anini respected the crown and went underground with his gang for a while only to resurface with renewed vigour.
The Oba of Benin, Omo N’Oba N’Edo Uku Akpolokpolo, Erediauwa I, was visibly disturbed as his people were mercilessly slaughtered, killed, raped, robbed and maimed by a young desperado that everyone, including the government, feared. Being a monarch who would never fold his arms and leave his people to be terrorized, the highly-revered Oba called a meeting with his council of traditional chiefs. The Oba then ordered all his Bini subjects to make supplications to the gods for the reign this young man to end. The Oba also called on the security agencies to try their best to fish out the brains behind the dastardly acts threatening to turn pristine Benin into something else.
Benin Kingdom is one of the most legendary in Africa and not even in its thousands of years of existence was it so menacingly disturbed by a single bandit. A curfew from 10pm till dawn was imposed on the whole state because of one man. He was an armed robber but they called him ‘The Governor’. When people mentioned the Governor of Bendel State, they would ask you:
Anini or Inienger?
Inienger, a colonel in the Nigerian Army was the governor of the state. But wait a minute, who was Lawrence Nomayangbon (also spelt as Nomayanukpon) Anini, aka Anini the Law and why was he feared to the extent that IBB had to personally demand for his capture during a meeting of the Armed Forces Revolutionary Council (AFRC), the nation’s highest decision making body in October 1986? IBB faced his Inspector-General of Police, Etim Inyang and the Commander-in-Chief blurted out:
‘My friend, where is Anini?’
A challenged Inyang replied:
‘We shall find him soon.’
But Inyang never did. His retirement from service came in November 1986 (his retirement notice was previously announced in October 1986 and it is still not clear whether his retirement was mandatory or voluntary) and the lot fell of the next IGP, Mohammed Gambo Jimeta who told journalists upon becoming the new police top boss on the 1st November, 1986:
‘I would catch Anini very soon.’
The nation would later get the answer in the most dramatic fashion. Dearest Reader, Abiyamo welcomes you to the underworld, the den of the smoking guns, of the racing bullets, the world of the legendary and almost mythical Anini alias The Law, alias The Governor, alias Ovbiudu (the Lion-Hearted), alias Robin Hood of Africa, alias The Unbeatable, alias The Robber’s Robber,  the man who would later etch his name in ugly and scrawly black ink in history as Nigeria’s most notorious armed robber. But who was this thief whom many believed could vanish into the thin air using the dark forces of magic?
Babangida had been thorougly embarrassed by the Anini saga and he was even taunted by the BBC that as the military president, he held sway over all the 17 out of the 19 states of the Federation with the exception of two strategic ones: Lagos and Bendel which were ruled by criminals. In one year in the 1980s, from January to July, Lagos alone witnessed 208 violent crimes. IBB’s clenched fist was understandable. Anini was the latest target.  The Daily Times (8th December, 1986) fired back at the BBC following Anini’s capture:
‘President Babangida controlled 17 states while while Anini Suzerainty held sway in the remaining two states, Bendel and Lagos. The grievous implication of BBC’s scathing news items was that Nigeria was a country where security of life and property could not be assured and that the atmosphere was not fertile for foreign investment. No thanks to the dastardly acts of a mean criminal called Anini. The BBC should swallow its words.’ 

Read part 2 here

Boko Haram abducts 60 women in Adamawa

No fewer than 60 women have been reportedly abducted by Boko Haram insurgents from Waga Mangoro and Garta villages in Adamawa State in fresh attacks unleashed by the militants.
Forty of the women were said to have been abducted in Waga Mangoro while 20 were reportedly abducted in the Grata area of the state.
Residents of the affected area, who escaped during the attack, confirmed the incident to our correspondent on the telephone on Wednesday.
One of them said hundreds of insurgents overran the area on motorcycles and vans during a raid on Saturday, burning houses and abducting young women.
One of the locals in Garta, Tizhe Kwada, who managed to escape, said the rampage continued with many residents fleeing the area, which had been under Boko Haram control for about two months.
The Chairman of Madagali Local Government Area, James Watharda, said he had all along been in Yola since the insurgents took control of the area, adding that he could not speak on the matter.

LAWRENCE ANINI, Nigeria’s Most Notorious Armed Robber Part 3

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THE DAYS OF ARMED ROBBERY
Anini did not give much information about his early days in the underworld but he confessed that he was introduced to the 'trade' by one Friday Agbonifo (dead as at the time Anini was captured). He is thought have become friends with Kingsley Eweka in the period between 1984-1986. By July 1986, Anini was powerful enough to launch a full frontal assault against the entire police force of Nigeria's Mid-West region.
By August 1986, Anini had metamorphosed into a full-time snitching monster. That month, one of the bloodiest bank robberies in Nigeria's history would be commandeered by Anini and his ruthless fellows. In the heist, a policeman was gunned down while others, including two children, were also killed. That same bloody month, Anini and his 'guys' were cruising down and as they vehicle was flagged down at a police checkpoint, they opened fire. Two police officers lost their lives in that incident. Within 90 days, a total of nine policemen lost their lives in Anini's hands. 16 civilians had been killed and a total of 12 banks robbed, according to Prince Amen Oyakhire, the former military governor of Taraba and Yola States, who was mandated by IBB to travel to Benin on the Anini case.
But August 1986 would not end without another Anini's displaying his insatiable appetite for taking what does not belong to him. This time around it was the turn of First Bank Plc and the specific target was their branch at Sabongida-Ora. Monday 11th was the appointed date and 3.30pm was the time. Amazingly, they left with a relatively little amount of money (N2,000) but they wasted numerous lives at the scene of the robbery. They killed three people on the spot upon reaching the venue, one of whom was a policeman. Stray bullets from the maniacal Anini and his possessed gang flew off and killed two children who had been locked up in a building near the bank. They were madly firing at the house when a policeman ran in for safety.
The prince executed for armed robbery was indeed Anini's jolly friend and they moved together. However, when he was executed, Anini vowed to not only make the police repay him his money which he paid so the evidence against Eweka could be destroyed but he would also avenge the death of his friend in a most gripping manner, one that the Nigeria Police would never forget in a hurry. Over time, Anini had various bloody confrontations with the Nigeria Police. At a point, the Nigeria Police unleashed so much terror and destruction on his network that his bubbling business in Ibadan, Oyo State was liquidated and brought to a sudden halt.
Following the execution of his friend, Prince Eweka, and coupled with the way the police had dealt with him and his nefarious businesses, Anini vowed to deal ruthlessly with the Nigeria Police. Henceforth, he would be far more ruthless than he had been in the past as he believed that the Ibadan attack on him by the cops was just unjustified. What even enraged him more was the fact that the police (George Sam Iyamu to be specific) had collected the sum of N50,000 from him and agreed that Eweka would be freed as it was to him, a 'taboo' for a Bini prince to be executed, only for the police to turn around and nail Eweka's coffin. Anini would never forget this act of 'betrayal' and from then on, him and his killing spree partner, Monday Osunbor would specifically target policemen. Oba of Benin then stressed the fact that Anini has no link whatsoever with the royal family. The monarch would later tell the police authorities to search their cupboards very well.
Then the bloodbath began, Anini and his gang turned Benin City to a stage of gory robberies and treated the people to horrendous spectacles of blood-curdling crimes. For maximum dramatic impact, Anini, would spray naira notes from their getaway car as he engaged in frantic shootouts with the police shouting:
'I rob for the people!'
-It was on the 14th of August, 1986. Anini was driving a stolen Peugeot 504 and when he was flagged down by policemen at the Jeromi-Edebiri junction, he fired at the officers without thinking. By the time the policemen were taken to the Central Hospital, two of them were already dead.
Before long, he was known not only within Benin but all over Nigeria. Newspapers and media outlets all went into a frenzy with editorials and major features discussing nothing but Anini and whether he would ever meet his nemesis. Anini never hid his disdain for the police and when he was eventually nabbed, he would confess:
'Dem kill my father and brother at Ibadan, and my friend Kingsley Eweka.'
But like a man possessed by the very evil of the Devil himself, Anini was also believed to carry out another car snatching near the Federal Electoral Commission (FEDECO)office in Benin (another Peugeot 504) the next day after AIG of police Omeben's driver had been abducted (see below), in the first week of September. Omeben was in Benin to work on the Anini case. Anini was suspected to have used a Passat TS vehicle for this particular operation (of course, the Passat too was believed to have been pilfered).
But that was not all. 48 hours after the Passat incident, Anini stormed his own local government area (Orhionmwon) and by the time the hapless people knew what had hit them, Anini and his death squad had pumped bullets into two police officers. A string of three different armed robberies would then follow and all fingers pointed at Lawrence (his nickname The Law is a shortened form of his name).
-In one of Anini's operations, the Mercedes Benz 200 (registered BD 1 HA) of the Ogbogbovmen II, the Ovie (King) of Ughelli was stolen in Benin. Actually, the monarch in full regalia in his car before he was swooped upon by Anini's gang and he was dragged out of the car. They ensured that they meted out some measure of disgrace upon the helpless traditional ruler before they made away with his glittering Mercedes. As the King took a hired taxi back to his palace, he was wondering if it was one very bad dream. Yes, it was a nightmare and it was called Anini.
-A chartered accountant named Mrs. Remi Shobanjo who was also the President of the Ugbowo Lioness Club, was murdered while a former worker and Staff Writer with the Nigerian Observer, Mr. Frank Unoarumi, was also killed and they made away with his Peugeot 505. When Anini and his gang reached the office of the Shobanjos, they banged the door with all the fury left in Hell and then started firing at the door. They arrived the Adesogbe Street office around 7.40 in the evening.
The terrified couple inside the room did not know what to do and decided to be silent and not open the door. Then they continued firing at the door until it gave way. A bullet sped in and lodged itself near the poor woman's heart. Before she knew what hit her, Mrs. Shobanjo was dead. She died on the spot. Then they entered, stole N200, the couple's Peugeot 504 (later found in Aghalokpe, Delta State) which they drove off with, after making away with some documents too.
Between 5th and 9th September, 1986, Anini and his gang made it clear that they were not joking. The attacked two police stations and posts at Abudu (the seat of his own local government area) where he killed a police sergeant and father of seven named Daniel Omedew, took his pistol and went away with other weapons in the station. Then he and his devilish train moved to Ugo town where Corporal Lucky Ogieva was not lucky at all, falling to their bullets. By the time they left, two officers of the Nigerian Police had been killed in cold blood and many more escaped with varying degrees of injuries.
By the end of September 1986, Anini seemed untouchable and the entity called Nigeria was already saturated with the chilling news of a dreaded robber from Benin. That month, Anini, wearing the uniform of a police superintendent launched another assault on a petrol station situated along Wire Road in Benin City. He then collected all the proceeds of their sales for the day, an undisclosed amount of money, then he decided to shoot the station manager in the thigh. In a macabre fashion, he sprayed part of the money along the road as he made his escape. This act of his is why some termed him the 'Robin Hood of Africa'.
As you might have guessed, Anini's string of successes further emboldened him and spurred him to take even greater challenges. On Independence Day (1st October, 1986), he fired another salvo of surprise at Nigerians when he waylaid a man, Mr. Casmir Akagbosu, in Benin around 9 pm and shot the cartilage of his nose, which almost fell off. A reflex turning of his head saved Akagbosu's life. His head was just centimetres away from the speeding bullets. That night was real evening of terror as Anini's superior weaponry blasted off with brutal efficiency, shattering the calm peace of a Benin populace preparing to sleep.
But Akagbosu was no ordinary citizen, he was actually the State's Commissioner of Police and he had just been attacked in his new Peugeot 504 right at a spot just about 100 metres from a police roadblock. With a shattered nose, he managed to survive the attack with other injuries and it must be noted that earlier that day, Anini's men had gone round town that same day, even killing a policeman in the process. He was a pack of sheer terror, violence and destruction and I believe that at a point, he must have believed that he would never be caught, that he was on top of the world, with the globe at his sinewy feet.
The Commissioner of Police would also survive a second attack. He was seated in a station wagon flanked by two officers, his aides: one Sergeant Ojo and Corporal Ogbe Zechariah. All of a sudden, they were under a volley of fierce bullets coming from all directions. Anini and his boys again. Luckily for Akagbosu but unluckily for his assistants, his two aides received all the hits on their limbs and thighs. The driver, Constable Paulinus Oweh was not that lucky. He was hit in the head and his limp body collapsed on the seat, with blood gushing out of the point of impact. An unidentified MOPOL (mobile policeman) seating in front with the driver however escaped untouched. The sudden attack left the Commissioner and his boys completely flabbergasted and could not mount any reasonable response on time. At that point, the legend of Anini, the man who attacked a Police Commissioner spread far and wide all over Nigeria. Demoralized policemen would become hypertensive at the mere mention of the Orogho crime lord.
Not long after that, Anini was on rampage again. He was off to the Ring Road, one of his favourite spots for attacks. Driving the blue Santana that he had stolen earlier (to tease the police, he took the car after stealing it to a car wash where he calmly stayed for about an hour while the car was being cleaned), he turned at the Iwehen Street junction and he was not too far from the petrol station where he had struck less than a month ago. All of sudden, he caught a glimpse of a lonely police constable walking on the street. Chai!
He brought the car to a halt, withdrew his submachine gun and with the madness of a crazed Hitler, he released a torrent of bullets on the poor policeman.

Tuesday 21 October 2014

The Five Stages of Grief: How to Get Over Rejection

Rejection is a horrible feeling. We all get our heart-broken once, and for those who haven’t had their heart broken, be warned it will happen one day. Rejection can come in many forms: breaking up with your boyfriend/girlfriend, being turned down by by the guy/girl you like, even not being accepted into your preferred college or job. Just like grief, you’re dealing with the loss of losing a life: just your imagined life where everything goes your way. But not everything goes your way. Sorry; that’s life. When dealing with rejection we go through the ‘Five Stages of Grief’. It can take weeks, months, or even just a night out with your friends on the town to get over and accept your rejection. Everyone is different. But the feeling doesn’t last and you’ll be out living it large in no time.

1. Denial.

You can’t accept life as it is right now. You keep imagining scenarios where everything will work out. Even if the person gave you a firm no and has left you as you were. For college rejections this usually manifests itself with you calling up the admissions office and informing them they must have made some mistake. Nothing else makes sense. For recent break ups or romantic rejections, this is the time when you would text and call them incessantly. Even though everyone around you is telling you that its a bad idea, alcohol and a broken heart often steer you in a different direction. Or denial shows itself with you pretending that you’re not bothered by it in the slightest. You choose to go out and get absolutely plastered with your mates. You didn’t care in the first place.

2. Anger.

At your ex, the person who turned you down, the universe, yourself. Everyone is out to get you, nothing is working out for you. You feel hard done by and will not let anything pass. You send angry emails to your ex to let them know that they didn’t get away with anything, bitch about the person who turned you down and tell yourself they were an asshole anyway and wouldn’t have made you happy. You denounce that university as a pompous snore-fest that wouldn’t be good for you anyway. This anger explodes out of you at random times. When your housemate eats your bread, when you are late for the bus – which is clearly the bus drivers mistake – or your professor gives you a bad mark on the essay you barely worked on because you were so pissed by everything anyway. You blame everyone and everything. You hate everyone. Stay away from people during this time, unless you want to lose friends and make enemies.

3. Bargaining.

Reverting back to denial, you still can’t accept that there’s nothing you can do to change their mind. You promise to change, to be a better person, you email the college and tell them you’ll take up extra classes or work for free on campus, you’ll constantly offer that person a drink on a night out in hopes that they might give you something back (creep). This is the pathetic stage. The stage where your friends and family try to distract you from your loss but also secretly hope you’ll get over it soon when you’re turned down again – which is only inevitable. The stage where you lose all self-respect and sell yourself in hopes of getting what you want. There must be some way, right?

4. Depression.

Usually the stage where you spend days in bed, not getting washed or dressed. Feeling hopeless and either overeating or under-eating. Friends and housemates and family don’t know what to do because you are feeling so hopeless. Nothing they can say will penetrate the depressive cloud that has formed all around you. You feel like you will never be accepted anywhere by anyone. You see yourself as a failure. You still blame everyone else but now you’re blaming yourself too. You have no energy to be angry anymore. You’re done with that, all you feel is sad and alone.

5. Acceptance.

Finally, you come to terms with everything. This can happen suddenly, or gradually bit by bit. It doesn’t mean that you’re going to be jumping around thinking life is great but you’ll be able to deal and move on. You’ll get into another college, you’ll be in another relationship and you’ll be attracted to another person. You recognize that you totally over-reacted but your human and everyone deals with it Hopefully you won’t go through it again but now that you have you might handle it better next time. Everything is going to be okay. Okay?